Anger is one emotion we all have. Anger can be both a blessing and a curse. Parents who get out of control with their anger are often described as having low emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence (EQ) is the skill of being able to understand and regulate our emotions as well as sense and understand the emotions of others.
Parents with high levels of emotional intelligence tend to be better parents, do better at work and school and have more quality interpersonal relationships. Parents who lack emotional intelligence tend to have many issues with others. Turmoil might include low levels of intimacy, a history of poor relationships (including friendships), and lack of compassion for others feelings, wants or needs.
Skills in empathy are key because we are able to use this skills to connect better with children. emotional intelligence as a skill helps us to see things from another persons emotional viewpoint as well as their mental one. When we feel "felt" by another, we tend to not get as hurt or disappointed. Empathy helps aid in lowering our anger response and relating to the person we are engaged with.
Common parental problems with showing empathy toward others are often caused by using filters. Filters are what is used when we listen but have an answer already running in our own mind. Filters also cause us to hear things differently than what is being said. When we learn how to stop our filters, we tend to be more in tune with what others are really trying to say.
Empathy can be learned by first comprehending it, then repeating it. It takes time to become more empathetic, but anyone can learn how to do this. As ones' empathy goes up, the feeling of anger and frustration with our children and significant others decreases. All skills learned in online parenting class
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